How do people decide on what they want to do to mark significant occasions? The process can be so straight forward for some - those who are decisive are fortunate in many ways. For others, it can be kinda overwhelming. Sometimes, I think being a decisive person is a curse, but mostly, I am glad I don't have a problem making a decision.
Talking to people, asking them questions, observing their thought processes and then respecting their wishes, is a very privileged and unique opportunity. So many extraordinary conversations are shared with me.
Of course, life celebrations are not just about weddings, babies, major anniversaries or birthdays. There is also the celebration marking the end of a life. This particular conversation is often difficult and challenging for many people.
Over the last 12 months in particular, the conversation about death and dying and resting places appears to have been heard often in our home. It is not uncomfortable or scary. It is just matter of fact. It has caused me to reflect on something that happened for me many years ago and I still get goose bumps when I think about it.
Corny as it sounds, it was a scene in a TV show called Northern Exposure. If you were a fan of this series you will get what I mean when I say how much I loved it quirkiness.
One of the most impressive pieces of script and filming for me was when Ed gave Ruth-Anne her grave site and they danced on it.
Ed: Uhm...it's for your grave.
Ruth-Anne: My grave?! You bought me a grave for my birthday?
Ed: Do you like it?
Ruth-Anne: Yes...yes, I do, Ed. It's a great spot to spend eternity.