With my beloved BFF, Andrew, as our “Em-Cee” making sure all things followed the script as I desired, we had a great night.
This is what I said during my speech….
….. I only have two regrets from 27 April 1996 – we did not have a professional photographer and I made a crap speech …. I have corrected one regret and know that Tony will create magic with the photos he takes tonight – now I hope to improve on my effort from 20 years ago with these following few words I share with you!
Before I start though, I am asking all of you here to make sure that when the tele-movie of the Deb and Tez story is made….. Please make sure that Rene Russo is cast in the role of DC and Mark Harmon (Jethro from NCIS) is cast in the TC role …..
Most of you will know that I am a bit of a movie addict (especially chick flicks) – so I will know how many of you pay attention to my speech, because you will be the ones who recognize the number of references I make to some of my all-time favourite movies.
It would be polite do make some thank you acknowledgements, but I think Tezza can take care of that tonight, with the exception of my special mention & thank you to those that were able to join us from the original wedding group.
My darling awesome beloved Andrew, my witness. AG you know how much I love and adore you …. Always.
Mick, Tezza’s witness - Number 1 step son, you know you what? You turned out to be OK for a ratbag kid – I think the fact that you have also married a gorgeous Italian gal, has helped with that!
And the babies. Oh my goodness ….. the babies. Fabian, Jesse C, Ashlee and beautiful boy Kane could not be here – but Dani, Gabi, Samara, Beks, Matilda, Mason, Tait and my darling little boy Jesse …… are here tonight. This is how I know that 20 years has gone past, when I look at this group of truly wonderful magnificent young people – this is what gives me such hope for humanity when I see such gorgeousness amongst these babies. All grown up. Each one of you made my wedding day magical and beautiful - you may not have realized it then – but I sure hope that each of you know what a special part you have in my heart and I am so thrilled that you each could be here tonight.
So where did the story really begin ….. In an airport hangar is the scene. Meeting Tezza at the Ambulance air wing branch at Essendon airport is where it begun…….
However, before I thank the husband, a post that my darling #galpal Bella had on her Facebook recently, made me think ….. I would like to give a shout out to the other blokes who dumped me or who chose not to hang around – ‘cos if any of them had actually wanted to make a life with me, I would not have ended up making the best decision ever – and that was to make the choice to be with Tezza. Their lack of interest, meant “I changed my stars” (A Knight’s Tale)
I know that you have all heard the story about the romance and how he proposed 3 times before I said yes and the story of when I was at the airport in Bali waiting for Tezza to arrive and what Andrew said to me ….. but what many of you will not know is the story of a couple of nights post operatively, after that bloody old shit “jimmy dancer” had called by and I was feeling quite unwell ….. I was brewing an infection and was feeling less than average. Tezza bundled me up and wrapped me in a blanket and rocked me like a child in that hospital bed and he did not leave my side for days. He was so loving and caring and nurturing and I remember thinking – this is “Love; Actually” !
The first 20 years of marriage have included lots of travel, job changes, many hairstyles – for both of us, a lot of food and plenty of wine, sharing so much with amazing friends and family along the way – engagement holiday with Andrew and Ike, Honeymoon with Ruthie and Russell, babies arrivals and a few weddings – a few downs and a whole lot of ups …. In fact I have been “having the time of my life”.(Dirty Dancing) When I asked him once why he wanted to marry me, he told me quite simply “ we can be happy”– And he can still make me laugh out loud. I now know that, “he is not perfect and I am not perfect but we are perfect for each other” (Good Will Hunting)
I once said to someone I wanted a dagg to renovate – I met Tezza and he said to me “How do you spell ’Gabbana’?” (Devil wears Prada) and then we found that Paul Smith clothes worked really well for Tez …. So the renovation became an ongoing collaboration with Mr Smith. It is still our ambition to visit the Milan Paul Smith store after having visited so many other stores around the globe. And we even saw the original “LOVE” tapestry in the New York store. (Seen in Sex & the City movie) Now we have our own LOVE.
¾ of our married life has been at our beloved Plough Creek Homestead – When Tezza found PCH and we decided to make a bid to buy it ….. he said “Didn’t I tell you that this was a wonderful place?” (Breakfast at Tiffany’s)
So many wonderful times have been shared with so many at PCH.
We have had some fabulous occasions inclusive of great meals and a good bottle of wine or 100, a few tough times and so many shared happy, wonderful times with family and friends. Together we have loved sharing the art of conviviality.
Some days I want to throttle you Tez, ‘cos no one eats their meal as slow as you, or takes as long to sit down for a meal or repeats the same stories over and over and over …. Yes, we know that we should think of the repeated stories like our favourite songs on the radio that are repeated regularly. Ain’t that right Rossco and Timmy? But it is all the other “million tiny little things that when added up, mean we should be together and why we are”….. (Sleepless in Seattle)
You always support me, remind me I am loved when I have another setback or rejection, let me pursue dreams and have a go at things that may only ever be hobbies, but make me feel happy. You always look after me when I am infirmed – YES…. Wheelchairs/crutches/walking stick, cancer and cavities in the roof of my mouth don’t turn you off !! You never seem to get rattled by the big stuff. “Your sons love you and if I knew nothing else about you that would be enough.” (A Knights Tale) But I also know that you are a very good man, Terry Chessells. And I am proud that you are my husband. “This is my word... and as such is beyond contestation” (A Knights Tale)
I once heard someone say "Winter must be cold for those with no warm memories." (An Affair to Remember)
So, Tezza Ed, thank you for making 20 years of warm memories with me.
I love you. Truly, Madly, Deeply (Truly, Madly, Deeply)